let's unf**k your marriage.
You're only a few breakthroughs away from reconnecting with your wife and reactivating your relationship.
You've made the decision and chose a career that asks a lot of you.
It may take you out of town, out of state, out of country, out of continent-
And she stays at home to hold the fort.
You dominate in your career, your industry -
your world is a piece of cake.
Clients closed, projects executed, another job well done.
...until you take your seat on that return flight and head back home.
You are bracing yourself for the hurricane that is waiting for you on the other side of that door:
Your Wife.
All you want to do is relax and recoup from the past whirlwind of deadline after deadline, demand after demand...
But you quickly see that is not the case.
Instead of being greeted with open arms, you get the cold shoulder and a list of all the things you failed to be in your absence.
A good husband.
A good dad.
While you thought going out to hunt and provide WAS being the good husband, the good dad.
For a moment, you want to grab your carry-on
and run back to the airplane.
Because the airplane looks you in the eye,
gives you a smile,
asks if YOU need anything,
and says: "thank you for choosing us."
But until that next flight, next contract, next shift -
you will have to make do
with a wife who won't melt into your arms
or warm your soul.
Which of these videos hit close to home?
What are you struggling with?
You're NOT alone - some of the most common issues I can help you solve:
Communication
You have difficulties getting your point across to one another and often feel unheard
Sex & Intimacy
You haven't felt physically wanted or inspired in the bedroom and often feel rejected
Connection
You no longer have a playful or exciting relationship and feel like roommates or less
Boundaries
You often take things personally and/or project your feelings and assumptions on each other
Anger
You struggle with expressing your true feelings without resorting to anger and/or shutting down
Trust
Betrayals or disappointments have eroded trust and evicted vulnerability on either side
It doesn't have to stay this way.
But in order for it to change, you must do something different.
If you feel like your marriage is fading...
if you're questioning your relationship,
if you feel so distant and far away from your wife -
not getting the confirmation of the love you wish to feel from her,
not feeling like you're the man she's even interested in,
gathering SO much "evidence" that she's miserable and disappointed
that you find yourself wanting to run away from it all and just start over from scratch...
(literally or metaphorically)...
Let me carefully, lovingly:
hold you the fuck back.
Unless you've already fought tooth and nail in all the right ways,
Unless one of you has already left and the door is shut,
...let this, right now, be the turning point of it all.
Let this be the MOMENT you break your walls down,
and be OPEN to rebuilding your marriage together from a COMPLETELY different place.
One with better connection,
one with better trust,
one with better intimacy,
one with better playfulness,
one with better cooperation,
one with better attention,
one with better patience,
one with better love.
Because right now - any way you put it: it is NOT working.
That doesn't mean you throw it out.
So if you believe that You and your Wife still have a shot -
that you did not unite on accident,
that neither of you were meandering on a conveyor belt just waiting for someone -anyone- to pick you up,
Take a pause, and recognize:
there is hope in front of you.
What's on the line for you right now?
What will your marriage look like in a year,
...5 years from now if you do nothing?
Will it be lush with life?
Or a desolate desert?
It's okay to ask for directions.
In order to get her to open up to you:
she must trust that you can lead the way.
I can help you find that way,
if you're ready and willing to start.
3 ways to work with me:
Transformation Tune-up
For those who are looking for on-the-go support, this package is perfect for you.
Boiling Point Breakthrough
Powerfully potent - the fastest way to shift gears and finally get results in your marriage.
PLOT TWIST
A journey of transformation across Marriage and Life that will never leave you the same.
Hey, I'm Heather Sheard
MARRIAGE TRANSFORMATION STRATEGIST
I help bridge the painful gap between you and your wife, and unlock your ability to love each other again.
I’m a Marriage Transformation Strategist whose goal is to turn couples from “happily married” (whatever that means) or even just “married” – into a pair that is outstandingly, magnificently, radiantly MARRIED AF. (Yes, that does mean Married As Fuck. That's a story for another day.)
Married AF is when you are so undeniably in love, so certain of the person you’ve promised to spend the rest of your life with, that happily married is a wild understatement.
Married AF is unshakeable.
It’s iron-clad.
It’s the strongest of marriages that can weather any storm, tornado, or earthquake that comes its way.
Every relationship is filled with challenges, but being Married AF is like being able to dissolve those challenges with a simple flick of a finger.
How do I help get you there?
WE DIG.
You and I navigate to the roots of the issues, problems, and obstacles currently crippling your chances for a high-vibe and radiant marriage.
We do this through heart-centered, soul-awakening breakthrough conversations that lets you look at your life in a way you’ve never seen it before.
It’s messy.
There will be “stuff” everywhere.
But every masterpiece has come out of a disaster of a studio. Every renovation looks like a pile of rubble before the finishing touches are applied.
And then? Everyone oohs and ahhs and wishes they could have it for themselves.
But we’re not dealing with paintings and new kitchens here.
THIS IS YOUR MARRIAGE. YOUR FAMILY. YOUR LIFE.
And we do it in a way that’s down-to-earth, practical, and real.
I’m not here to spout Biblical verses at you or recite a metaphor that sounds pretty but needs deciphering.
I’m your fresh set of eyes with a shot of reality and a twist of strategy.
THIS IS HONEST AF, NO BULLSHIT, RIP-THE BANDAID OFF, MARITAL RECALIBRATION AND LIFE TRANSFORMATION.
If your end game is to grow old with each other and love every second of it, then I am your coach, your cheerleader, and your fan. I am the defense advocate your marriage is crying out for.
I want a front row ticket to the most valuable breakthrough of your life. And we won’t stop until we get there.
I am a problem solver by nature. Before my training as a Strategic Interventionist and Marriage Coach, I made my living as a technician in live entertainment.
And there’s only one thing you need to remember in live entertainment:
THE SHOW MUST GO ON.
There are no quitsies and no retakes. You forge on and you make sure that shit looks good.
Your marriage is no different.
I bring you that level of passion and dedication to the table.
“I was impressed that Heather quickly identified the root cause, showed us our “blind spots,” and taught us to see each other’s perspectives. She made observations about my husband that I was not aware of even after ten years of marriage. There were many “aha” breakthrough moments for both of us.”
L.T.
California
"Right from the beginning, she had a way about her that put me at ease to open up and trust her. Through our time together, I was able to discover so much more clarity and further confirmations on the direction I was going. I cannot tell you how encouraged and energized I was after our session. I cannot recommend Heather enough. She obviously has a huge heart to help and serve others."
J.S.
Tennessee
3 ways to work with me:
Transformation Tune-up
For those who are looking for on-the-go support, this package is perfect for you.
Boiling Point Breakthrough
Powerfully potent - the fastest way to shift gears and finally get results in your marriage.
PLOT TWIST
A journey of transformation across Marriage and Life that will never leave you the same.
My Values, Beliefs, Training and Methods
I believe that we are currently living in a society where there are too many "no-win" situations.
I observe that we are encouraged to make our needs and our feelings the responsibility of others, without investigating and taking accountability for these needs and feelings ourselves. When others aren't capable, or even equipped to fulfill those needs and validate those feelings - they are unfairly vilified and blamed for not doing so.
I believe that this dynamic also occurs within marriages, and goes horrifically unidentified - which contributes to an extravagant divorce rate consisting of marriages that could have survived if it was given a fighting chance.
This is not to say that there aren't marriages that need to end - there are many marriages past their expiry date - and in those cases - divorce is best for all parties involved.
But I am not here to make that judgement. In fact: my aim is the do the opposite.
My gift and passion is to turn over every rock and stone in your marriage to find HOPE.
I'm going to assume you SHOULD stay together, because unless you are equipped with the UNDERSTANDING of what you're dealing with, and also the TOOLS to succeed - well, it's no wonder the divorce rate is about 50%. And it goes up to an embarrassing rate at 67% for 2nd and 73% for 3rd marriages (according to Forbes Advisor).
So... it begs the question... maybe divorce isn't so effective after all?
The way I work is with TRUTH, CONTEXT, and NUANCE. Three things that I feel are not given enough weight and attention nowadays.
This may mean I don't stay neutral, and I am trained to NOT stay neutral - because that's the crucial tipping point between the breakthrough, or another decade of suffering.
The one truth that you must understand above all is: that you are in control of what YOU do, and no one else.
If the marriage is not in great shape, and you are one half of that couple, at some level: you are responsible.
This is unpopular opinion - because it hurts and we don't want to hear it.
But it's GREAT news, because if you caused THIS part over here to give you the marriage you have, then YOU hold the power to change it. And if you change that part, the relationship and marriage itself MUST change because it's no longer the same.
I can help you identify the parts that need to change so that you have an understanding of the problem and the tools to move forward.
This work will be challenging and sometimes painful. It can't NOT be, as it's requiring you to go outside of your comfort zone. I won't have you spend your hard-earned money just to agree with you, tickle your ears and keep you on the same path. You can do that with your friends for free.
This is not therapy, counselling, or a substitute for professional medical advice. My work is a perfect compliment to any of that - but it isn't that.
I am proud of my trainings and certifications from world class mentors, coaches, therapists and strategists. I will not trade on their names but am happy to share once we start working together.