BREAKTHROUGH
"You've changed my entire existence."
- R. J., USA
You're an honorable man who is genuinely trying to do ALL THE THINGS you think you're supposed to do to be a good husband, a good father.
On paper, you're checking all the "boxes" and meeting the criteria for the husband she should be head over heels for.
.... and yet - your experience of your wife is that she's:
DISTANT.
DISCONNECTED.
DISAPPOINTED.
DISGRUNTLED.
She's constantly critical and you feel diminished and defeated as her husband.
The resentment is palpable.
You KNOW she's miserable and you don't know how to solve this for the both of you.
You're damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
You, my friend, are in a double-bind.
Questioning if she even loves you anymore.
Questioning if YOU even love her anymore.
Let's be fair - you DO love her, but you don't feel like you're IN love with her... because it feels like the opportunities to figure that out and make sure... just aren't there.
The two of you are SO disconnected - emotionally, physically, intimately... you can be inches away from each other and still feel miles apart.
Your marriage has downgraded into roommate status - or worse, domestic zombies.
Just getting by with parenting your children and paying the bills.
But not what it's SUPPOSED to be.
You try to talk to her but it feels impossible because she just won’t listen to you.
If she only stopped getting so triggered every time you brought up something that bothered you, maybe the two of you could get somewhere.
Instead, everything ends up being “YOUR fault” and because of this, she doesn’t see the point in seeking outside help after the last attempt was a complete bust.
She wants you to figure this out on your own… but you’re not even really sure what it IS she’s looking for.
Even when you DO catch a few things that she’s looking for - more help with the kids, more help around the house - you feel like you finally hit the mark!
You feel proud of yourself and anticipate a happy wife, only to find out none of it is up to her standards and it seems like you’re just making things worse and getting in the way.
No happy wife. No happy life.
Date nights and vacations are less than desirable (if you even still take them) because now you feel like you just paid for false hopes - only to end up with the same misery you could have just endured in the comfort of your own home. At least the hostess smiled at you and made you feel visible for a grand total of 2 minutes.
You dare not bring up even the THOUGHT of having sex for fear of yet another rejection, so you wait and hope that maybe she initiates this time.
...But who are you kidding. She's perpetually tired and never in the mood. You wonder if she ever will be again.
The connection between the two of you is DIAL-UP DYSFUNCTIONAL when you really need UNLIMITED BROADBAND BLISS.
If you think the quality of your marriage is accurately described by the jarring sound that spewed out of your CPU when you used the phone line to find the internet, and the painfully slow connection that followed - you KNOW.
It's a clusterfuck of screeches and scratches - chaotic and nonsensical, yet you wait until it all settles down because on the other side of it, a connection has been made and you've gotten through.
...kind of.
Sure, she's still married to you...
But the constant feeling of rejection is draining away your sense of power over yourself and your life, and the weight of this permeates through your day after you leave the house.
Tempting you every which way to look where you should not look, and touch what you should not touch.
You witness your friends and colleagues who are suffering the pain and consequences of infidelity or divorce - and you know that this is not the path you want to walk.
Leaving your family and everything you've built is the last thing you want to do and it's essentially off the table.
But you're TERRIFIED of living the rest of your years feeling like you made a mistake and married the wrong woman.
It's permeating and infecting all areas of your life and you constantly dread that one day, she'll take the route so many others have marched proudly - and leave.
That maybe she'll just get so fed up and absolve you of this pain. You've found yourself in moments fantasizing about the freedom this would bring...
nudge by nudge,
course correction by course correction,
I'm Heather Sheard: Marriage Activator.
I Am A Truth-Seeking Warrior. I Stand For Defending Authentic Connection.
The heart-centered husband who knows he deserves more
The hopeful husband who WANTS a future with his current wife but knows drastic changes needs to occur
The providing husband who is confident financial insecurity is not the reason for strain on his marriage
The ambitious husband who does not want to struggle in connecting with his wife and children
Close-minded individuals already looking for reasons on why this WON'T work
Someone who is not looking to take action and doesn't see the value of investing resources into his wife, marriage, or family
Someone who believes he will instantly fix their marriage just because he threw some money at his problem and doesn't plan to implement anything further
Individuals or their spouse struggling with serious addictions; unaddressed psychiatric disorders; undiagnosed/unaddressed OCD, ADHD, violence, suicidal ideation, or mental illness; abuse of any kind
Minimum 4x Breakthrough Sessions
6 weeks 1:1 Voice/Text Support
1 Life Changing Experience
Your Investment:
$6997 USD
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Audacious "Whatever It Takes" Guarantee:
I recently celebrated my 12th wedding anniversary and want to make sure you make it to your next one. I am so confident I can help you experience a profound shift and transformation in your marriage AND life - that if we can't pull this off in 6 weeks, I will work with you for up to 6 months FOR FREE**
“Heather quickly identified the root cause, showed us our “blind spots,” and taught us to see each other’s perspectives. She made observations about my husband that I was not aware of even after ten years of marriage.”
L.T.
California
I am a Truth-Seeking Warrior.
I stand for defending
Authentic Connection.
I help you clear the mud and keep her.