Are you a HOPELESS HUSBAND married to a Withdrawn Wife?
What's a "Hopeless Husband" you ask?
You're an honorable man who is genuinely trying to do ALL THE THINGS you think you're supposed to do to be a good husband, a good father.
On paper, you're checking all the "boxes" and meeting the criteria for the husband she should be head over heels for.
.... and yet - your experience of your wife is that she's:
DISTANT.
DISCONNECTED.
DISAPPOINTED.
DISGRUNTLED.
She's constantly critical and you feel diminished and defeated as her husband.
The resentment is palpable.
You KNOW she's miserable and you don't know how to solve this for the both of you.
You're damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
You, my friend, are in a double-bind.
You find yourself facing a bleak and unfulfilling future, questioning what has become of you and the love of your life.
Questioning if she even loves you anymore.
Questioning if YOU even love her anymore.
Let's be fair - you DO love her, but you don't feel like you're IN love with her... because it feels like the opportunities to figure that out and make sure... just aren't there.
The two of you are so disconnected - emotionally, physically, intimately... you can be inches away from each other and still feel miles apart.
Your marriage has downgraded into roommate status - or worse, as I see it: domestic zombies.
Going through the motions with parenting your children and paying the bills.
This is what marriage USED to be.
But not what it's SUPPOSED to be.
You try to talk to her but it feels impossible because she just won’t listen to you.
If she only stopped getting so triggered every time you brought up something that bothered you, maybe the two of you could get somewhere.
Instead, things ends up being “YOUR fault” and because of this, she doesn’t see the point in seeking outside help after the last attempt was a complete bust.
She wants you to figure this out on your own… but you’re not even really sure what it IS she’s looking for.
If only she could just TELL you outright instead of challenging you to read her mind.
Even when you DO catch a few things that she’s looking for - more help with the kids, more help around the house - you feel like you finally hit the mark!
You feel proud of yourself and anticipate a happy wife, only to find out none of it is up to her standards and it seems like you’re just making things worse and getting in the way.
No happy wife. No happy life.
Date nights and vacations are less than desirable (if you even still take them) because now you feel like you just paid for false hopes - only to end up with the same misery you could have just endured in the comfort of your own home.
You dare not bring up even the THOUGHT of having sex for fear of yet another rejection, so you wait and hope that maybe she initiates this time.
...But who are you kidding. She's perpetually tired and never in the mood.
You wonder if she ever will be again.
The truth is, you are BOTH relationally unfulfilled and it shows.
The connection between the two of you is DIAL-UP DYSFUNCTIONAL when you really need UNLIMITED BROADBAND BLISS.
That jarring sound that spewed out of your CPU when you used the phone line to find the internet?
Yeah, that's a pretty accurate depiction of your marriage.
(If you know, you KNOW.)
It's a clusterfvck of screeches and scratches - chaotic and nonsensical, yet you wait until it all settles down because on the other side of it, a connection has been made and you've gotten through...
...kind of.
Sure, she's still married to you...
But the constant feeling of rejection is draining away your sense of power over yourself and your life, and the weight of this permeates throughout your day even after you leave the house.
Tempting you every which way to look where you should not look, and touch what you should not touch.
You witness your friends and colleagues who are suffering the pain and consequences of infidelity or divorce - and you know that this is NOT the path you want to walk.
Your marriage has reached a ceiling.
Your soul is desperate to break that ceiling - NOT the COVENANT.
Leaving your family and everything you've built is the last thing you want to do and it's essentially off the table.
But you're TERRIFIED of living the rest of your years feeling like you made a mistake and married the wrong woman.
It's permeating and infecting all areas of your life and you constantly dread that one day, she'll take the route so many others have marched proudly - and leave...
...That maybe she'll just get so fed up and absolve you of this pain. You've found yourself in moments fantasizing about the freedom this would bring...
...but then quickly realize that you've waited all your life for HER.
You just want HER back.
Not this version of her that can't stand you.
Can't hear you.
Can't see you.
Can't LOVE you.
LET ME ASSURE YOU:
you are not alone.
After countless conversations with men struggling with the same issues, I've noticed a common thread between all of them.
Threads that are so common, they're taken for granted.
And it's decaying marriages at an alarming rate.
The thing is...
This didn't happen overnight.
It happened while you weren't looking.
So when you feel confused about how exactly your marriage turned out this way...
and you don't understand why things have gotten so far off track...
no - you're not going crazy.
Your marriage is just... under the influence.
UNDER THE INFLUENCE... OF WHAT?
Of... the WORLD.
Of... SOCIAL MEDIA
Of... the MESSAGES that you hear every day in music, movies, tv shows, the news, the buildings you walk through and the websites you visit.
Take your pick.
The very ones that make you feel like you’re maybe a not-so-equal partner in this relationship.
The very ones that make you feel like you’re not allowed to say it like it is.
The very ones that make you feel like your opinion isn’t the "right" one.
The very ones that reek of a double standard.
The very ones that say: “sit down, don’t want to hear from YOU anymore.”
The very ones that make you feel like you can’t ACTUALLY tell her how you feel… just so you can keep the peace.
Just so you can avoid another argument.
Just so you don’t get some red-flag-damnable-label tattooed onto your forehead.
ENOUGH.
IS IT TIME NOW?
What if I told you: there's a way to wake her up?
What if you just needed to be pointed in the right direction?
What if you just needed someone skilled enough, trained enough, and brave enough to pinpoint your blind spots and serve them up to you on a silver platter?
Saying: "HERE'S the problem, and HERE is your solution."
AND THEN, IF YOU SO CHOOSE:
with personalized guidance and a FIRE to ensure you win,
You were led,
step by step,
nudge by nudge,
course correction by course correction,
to predictably revive her
ATTRACTION and DESIRE for YOU
so she can finally say:
"There he is. I've missed you. Come to me."
Oh, hi - that's my super power.
I'm Heather Sheard: Marriage Activator.
I Am A Truth-Seeking Warrior. I Stand For Defending Authentic Connection.
STEP 1:
Your liberation is on the other side of
BREAK THE SEAL
A mission critical scavenger hunt
to turn over every rock in your marriage and find out:
what is actually causing your PAIN and MISERY,
what to do about it,
and HOW to do it effectively.
This is a 4 week 1:1 intensive designed to get you the solutions you're looking for, FAST.
/// marital transformation triage.
introducing...
4 weeks. 1 Life Changing Experience.
How does this work?
We communicate over voice and text message.
1. You answer some initial questions.
2. I ask more questions about the answers you gave in step 1.
3. I put the pieces together and show you your blindspots and what needs to change, first and foremost.
4. I give you the game plan on how you save your marriage.
YES: 1:1 actual guidance, actual direction.
No leave-it-to-chance self study curriculum.
No rearranging your schedule just to make it to calls.
your minuscule investment:
$777 USD
Any questions? DM me on instagram @marriedafrevolution
*This year I celebrated my 12th wedding anniversary and want to make sure you make it to your next one. I guarantee I can move you through a profound shift and transformation in your marriage AND life with this 1:1 experience ALONE, regardless of whether or not we continue working together.
With that being said, there are ABSOLUTELY no refunds due to the nature of delivery. Back yourself 100% on your purchasing decisions, and only move forward if you know this is a right fit for you.
(** I will not be held responsible for any tears, healing, resolve, increased communication, elevated connection, exponential fulfillment and legacies carried out as a consequence of making this leap of faith. That credit belongs to you.)
Your Questions Answered
Why 1:1?
Simple: you want to fix your marriage quickly and get on with living your life. You’re not about prolonging this “journey” trying to figure it out yourself and culling up resources that may or may not give you the answers you’re looking for. Your life is complex and nuanced: you don't need a curriculum you'll never open, you don't need a community you'll never check in on. You understand that the fastest way to solving YOUR problem is to specifically address YOUR problem, one-on-one.
What about holidays/travel/etc coming up? What if we don’t finish in 4 weeks?
Don’t worry about life getting in the way. It's set up to be completed in 4 weeks - but you're not gonna get screwed if your circumstances don't squeeze into this specific timeline. It’s about the problem, the blind spots, and your own customized plan - which you will get, I promise. (If you're reading this in 2024: consider everything until January 6th a bonus.)
How much time do I need to dedicate to this?
This is designed to be as flexible and accommodating as possible. I don’t want it to interfere with or take over your schedule (a big reason as to why you've been hesitant about getting support before). You get 1:1 voice and text access to me over the 4 weeks. This can easily be done in your spare time, and I will make sure you have the momentum to win. All you need to do? Answer my questions to help me paint a picture of what you’ve got. Then, I’ll show you what you don’t see, and what needs to happen next.
What happens after the 4 weeks?
By the end of the 4 weeks you'll have a custom plan of action that you can take whether we continue working together or not. For some, this may be ALL you need to get your marriage activated and back on track. For those who wish to take it up a notch, I can help guide and support you through the action plan for as long as you need.
Is it really only $497?
Yes, it really is only $497… for now. I know what the other options are out there, and if you do too, then you know this is an absolute steal. And it’ll be the most effective route you’ve ever taken.
Ok - so how long will that "action plan" take?
In all transparency: that depends on what you take action on, how much help you want/need, and what you’re dealing with in your marriage. No one can give you a concrete, guaranteed answer because no one can predict the future or what you do. What I CAN say is that my goal is for you to not need my services as soon as possible - because it means I did my job.
WHO IS THIS FOR?
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The heart-centered husband who knows he deserves more
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The hopeful husband who WANTS a future with his current wife but knows drastic changes needs to occur
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The providing husband who is confident financial instability is not the reason for strain on his marriage
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The ambitious husband who does not want to struggle in connecting with his wife and children
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Close-minded individuals already looking for reasons on why this WON'T work
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Someone who is not looking to take action and doesn't see the value of investing resources into his wife, marriage, or family
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Someone who believes he will instantly fix his marriage just because he threw some money at the problem and doesn't plan to implement anything further
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Individuals or their spouse struggling with serious addictions; unaddressed psychiatric disorders; undiagnosed/unaddressed OCD, ADHD, violence, suicidal ideation, or mental illness; abuse of any kind
WHO IS THIS NOT FOR?
(If you're looking for a licensed therapist or counsellor, you're looking for a different kind of help and service that I don't provide.)
“Heather quickly identified the root cause, showed us our “blind spots,” and taught us to see each other’s perspectives. She made observations about my husband that I was not aware of even after ten years of marriage.”
L.T.
California
MEET YOUR
MARRIAGE ACTIVATOR
HEATHER SHEARD
I am a Truth-Seeking Warrior.
I stand for defending
Authentic Connection.
Wait - what's a "Marriage Activator", you ask?
Simple:
Some time ago, you had to break the ice and "get" her.
I help you clear the RUST and keep her.
I help you bridge the painful gap between you and your wife, and unlock your ability to love each other again.
I’m a Marriage Transformation Strategist whose goal is to turn couples from “happily married” (whatever that means) or even just “married” – into a pair that is outstandingly, magnificently, radiantly MARRIED AF. (Yes, that does mean Married As Fvck. That's a story for another day.)
Married AF is when you are so undeniably in love, so certain of the person you’ve promised to spend the rest of your life with, that happily married is a wild understatement.
