You're an honorable man who is genuinely trying to do ALL THE THINGS you think you're supposed to do to be a good husband, a good father.
On paper, you're checking all the "boxes" and meeting the criteria for the husband she should be head over heels for.
.... and yet - your experience of your wife is that she's:
DISTANT.
DISCONNECTED.
DISAPPOINTED.
DISGRUNTLED.
She's constantly critical and you feel diminished and defeated as her husband.
The resentment is palpable.
You KNOW she's miserable and you don't know how to solve this for the both of you.
You're damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
You, my friend, are in a double-bind.
Questioning if she even loves you anymore.
Questioning if YOU even love her anymore.
Let's be fair - you DO love her, but you don't feel like you're IN love with her... because it feels like the opportunities to figure that out and make sure... just aren't there.
The two of you are so disconnected - emotionally, physically, intimately... you can be inches away from each other and still feel miles apart.
Your marriage has downgraded into roommate status - or worse, as I see it: domestic zombies.
Going through the motions with parenting your children and paying the bills.
But not what it's SUPPOSED to be.
You try to talk to her but it feels impossible because she just won’t listen to you.
If she only stopped getting so triggered every time you brought up something that bothered you, maybe the two of you could get somewhere.
Instead, things ends up being “YOUR fault” and because of this, she doesn’t see the point in seeking outside help after the last attempt was a complete bust.
She wants you to figure this out on your own… but you’re not even really sure what it IS she’s looking for.
Even when you DO catch a few things that she’s looking for - more help with the kids, more help around the house - you feel like you finally hit the mark!
You feel proud of yourself and anticipate a happy wife, only to find out none of it is up to her standards and it seems like you’re just making things worse and getting in the way.
No happy wife. No happy life.
Date nights and vacations are less than desirable (if you even still take them) because now you feel like you just paid for false hopes - only to end up with the same misery you could have just endured in the comfort of your own home.
You dare not bring up even the THOUGHT of having sex for fear of yet another rejection, so you wait and hope that maybe she initiates this time.
...But who are you kidding. She's perpetually tired and never in the mood.
You wonder if she ever will be again.
The connection between the two of you is DIAL-UP DYSFUNCTIONAL when you really need UNLIMITED BROADBAND BLISS.
That jarring sound that spewed out of your CPU when you used the phone line to find the internet?
Yeah, that's a pretty accurate depiction of your marriage.
(If you know, you KNOW.)
It's a clusterfvck of screeches and scratches - chaotic and nonsensical, yet you wait until it all settles down because on the other side of it, a connection has been made and you've gotten through...
...kind of.
Sure, she's still married to you...
But the constant feeling of rejection is draining away your sense of power over yourself and your life, and the weight of this permeates throughout your day even after you leave the house.
Tempting you every which way to look where you should not look, and touch what you should not touch.
You witness your friends and colleagues who are suffering the pain and consequences of infidelity or divorce - and you know that this is NOT the path you want to walk.
Leaving your family and everything you've built is the last thing you want to do and it's essentially off the table.
But you're TERRIFIED of living the rest of your years feeling like you made a mistake and married the wrong woman.
It's permeating and infecting all areas of your life and you constantly dread that one day, she'll take the route so many others have marched proudly - and leave...
...That maybe she'll just get so fed up and absolve you of this pain. You've found yourself in moments fantasizing about the freedom this would bring...
And it's decaying marriages at an alarming rate.
The thing is...
This didn't happen overnight.
It happened while you weren't looking.
So when you feel confused about how exactly your marriage turned out this way...
and you don't understand why things have gotten so far off track...
no - you're not going crazy.
Your marriage is just... under the influence.
The very ones that make you feel like you’re maybe a not-so-equal partner in this relationship.
The very ones that make you feel like you’re not allowed to say it like it is.
The very ones that make you feel like your opinion isn’t the "right" one.
The very ones that reek of a double standard.
The very ones that say: “sit down, don’t want to hear from YOU anymore.”
nudge by nudge,
course correction by course correction,
I'm Heather Sheard: Marriage Activator.
I Am A Truth-Seeking Warrior. I Stand For Defending Authentic Connection.
what is actually causing your PAIN and MISERY,
what to do about it,
and HOW to do it effectively.
introducing...
4 weeks. 1 Life Changing Experience.
How does this work?
We communicate over voice and text message.
1. You answer some initial questions.
2. I ask more questions about the answers you gave in step 1.
3. I put the pieces together and show you your blindspots and what needs to change, first and foremost.
4. I give you the game plan on how you save your marriage.
YES: 1:1 actual guidance, actual direction.
No leave-it-to-chance self study curriculum.
No rearranging your schedule just to make it to calls.
your minuscule investment:
$777 USD
Any questions? DM me on instagram @marriedafrevolution
*This year I celebrated my 12th wedding anniversary and want to make sure you make it to your next one. I guarantee I can move you through a profound shift and transformation in your marriage AND life with this 1:1 experience ALONE, regardless of whether or not we continue working together.
With that being said, there are ABSOLUTELY no refunds due to the nature of delivery. Back yourself 100% on your purchasing decisions, and only move forward if you know this is a right fit for you.
(** I will not be held responsible for any tears, healing, resolve, increased communication, elevated connection, exponential fulfillment and legacies carried out as a consequence of making this leap of faith. That credit belongs to you.)
Simple: you want to fix your marriage quickly and get on with living your life. You’re not about prolonging this “journey” trying to figure it out yourself and culling up resources that may or may not give you the answers you’re looking for. Your life is complex and nuanced: you don't need a curriculum you'll never open, you don't need a community you'll never check in on. You understand that the fastest way to solving YOUR problem is to specifically address YOUR problem, one-on-one.
Don’t worry about life getting in the way. It's set up to be completed in 4 weeks - but you're not gonna get screwed if your circumstances don't squeeze into this specific timeline. It’s about the problem, the blind spots, and your own customized plan - which you will get, I promise. (If you're reading this in 2024: consider everything until January 6th a bonus.)
This is designed to be as flexible and accommodating as possible. I don’t want it to interfere with or take over your schedule (a big reason as to why you've been hesitant about getting support before). You get 1:1 voice and text access to me over the 4 weeks. This can easily be done in your spare time, and I will make sure you have the momentum to win. All you need to do? Answer my questions to help me paint a picture of what you’ve got. Then, I’ll show you what you don’t see, and what needs to happen next.
By the end of the 4 weeks you'll have a custom plan of action that you can take whether we continue working together or not. For some, this may be ALL you need to get your marriage activated and back on track. For those who wish to take it up a notch, I can help guide and support you through the action plan for as long as you need.
Yes, it really is only $497… for now. I know what the other options are out there, and if you do too, then you know this is an absolute steal. And it’ll be the most effective route you’ve ever taken.
In all transparency: that depends on what you take action on, how much help you want/need, and what you’re dealing with in your marriage. No one can give you a concrete, guaranteed answer because no one can predict the future or what you do. What I CAN say is that my goal is for you to not need my services as soon as possible - because it means I did my job.
The heart-centered husband who knows he deserves more
The hopeful husband who WANTS a future with his current wife but knows drastic changes needs to occur
The providing husband who is confident financial instability is not the reason for strain on his marriage
The ambitious husband who does not want to struggle in connecting with his wife and children
Close-minded individuals already looking for reasons on why this WON'T work
Someone who is not looking to take action and doesn't see the value of investing resources into his wife, marriage, or family
Someone who believes he will instantly fix his marriage just because he threw some money at the problem and doesn't plan to implement anything further
Individuals or their spouse struggling with serious addictions; unaddressed psychiatric disorders; undiagnosed/unaddressed OCD, ADHD, violence, suicidal ideation, or mental illness; abuse of any kind
“Heather quickly identified the root cause, showed us our “blind spots,” and taught us to see each other’s perspectives. She made observations about my husband that I was not aware of even after ten years of marriage.”
L.T.
California
I am a Truth-Seeking Warrior.
I stand for defending
Authentic Connection.
I help you clear the RUST and keep her.